I have a lot to talk about but I am not putting it all in one entry but this is the best news of all so I had to share this first.
Ok, let's go back to June 10th 2009 (yes I remember the date) when my sister K called me crying, bawling actually you know the kind with snots spilling out of your nose... not a soul in the world can undertand you.
Yup, that kind of crying. My sobbing sister proceeds to tell me that her son's father had him for the weekend and wasn't giving him back to K because he doesn't think she is a good Mom.
Now the bad thing, there is no legal custody agreement, it has always been mutual verbal agreement. So J files for custody, he wants FULL custody he doesn't want K seeing their son AT ALL.
Fast forward to July 5th, the day before my niece is coming down to see me for 5 weeks. My sister hasn't seen Aidan since June 10th. J promised that he would bring my nephew to see my niece before she left for Tennessee. J calls K and guess what, J's father was rushed to the hospital 2 hours away. Guess what else?? J never even went up there to see his fater. He has a cellphone there was NO reason he couldn't bring my nephew to see his sister. Nope it was just an excuse.
Here is a litle background. My nephew is 6 years old actually just turned 6 on July 8th, my sister didn't even get to see him on his 6th birthday. See the first 6 months of my nephew's life J wasn't even there, he never came to get him. It was always that he had to work and he couldn't come see his son. It was NEVER my sister, she wanted J to see his son more. My niece's father was killed in a car accident, she would NEVER deny a father of his child.
All my sister has never wanted was J to be a good dad to his son. Yes he is good to my nephew in one way and one way only, he will give my nephew anything he wants materialistic wise but he has no clue what love is. I know this, I have known J for 14 years actually he was my friend (if you could call it that) he has alway been a pain in the hiney.
He disrespects women, even his own mother calling her the C word (heard it with my own ears) plus many others. Calls his girlfriend fat ass, this he confirmed to me. He is basiclly a wanna be, he 'thinks' he's gansta, he is just delusional...lol.
Anywho, I could keep going but back to the story.
J finally allowed K to see my nephew, for 1 hour the week before the conference for custody. I fly back to PA for a week on August 10th to bring my niece back, spend the week with my family and buy my new car. It just so happens I was going to be there for the conference.
They go to the conference and J acts like a total fool. My sister was fine because her lawyer took care of everything. Yesterday they went to court. Today my sister and J got there answers from thier lawyers. My sister has Primary Physical Custody. J filed for this and didn't get what he wanted, he though all along that a judge would find her unfit. Now he has all these rules to follow, ones that he didn't have before. Like my husband said, he tried to fix something that wasn't broke.
J has been such a jerk today when my sister called to tell him she was coming to pick up her son, J went off on her. Calling her a scum back, that she didn't deserve to be a Mother and that he Fing hated her. He is going to try and appeal.
I know my nephew, he loves his Mommy and his big sister. J got this idea in his head that my nephew just loved my sister because he had to. When my sister went to get him, J's girlfriend started going off on my sister. My nephew turns to my sister and said don't worry about her Mommy, just tell her to talk to the hand. He has told my sister before that he didn't like her.
On the way home my nephew was singing to my sister saying he was happy to be with his Mommy. He is where he needs to be. I am happy things have worked out this way. I would have been hot if it didn't happen this way, I paid for my sister's lawyer...lol.
Ok this is extremely long. I was going to do 2 posts tonight but I am beat. It was a long long day, so I am heading to bed.
Until later.